I can’t remember how many times I heard this question growing up. I do remember at one point thinking that I wanted to be a lawyer because mom always said that I loved to argue with her, so I’d be good at it. I’m sure others aspired to be doctors, hairdressers, interior decorators and even mothers. Now a days, if you ask some young girls, their dreams are made up of being YouTubers and gamers.
There was a time in my life when I wanted to be a missionary, traveling the world proclaiming God's love. I was brought up with strict rules and biblical principles so at the time, this seemed like the path I was groomed to take. Yet, my life's journey took some crazy, adventurous and sometimes not so healthy turns. The dream of missions quickly faded as did my innocence.
As time went on, I found myself as a single mother whose sole purpose was to provide for my 2 babies, even if that meant taking a job that wasn’t exactly by forte. My mom had worked as a government employee all her career and had always encouraged me to apply. I can still hear her now, “You need stability and security, and the state has great health benefits and the best retirement plan you can ask for.” I had fought this concept for years until the job I held in the private sector was eliminated due to the company closing. That’s when I started questioning myself. Was I being selfish by thinking that I was meant for more? Am I putting my children’s care at risk by pursuing things outside of what my parents were telling me? What was wrong with me? With these limiting beliefs and incessive doubting myself, I finally gave in. After several interviews and a ton of paperwork later, I hesitantly took a job for the Public Education Department.
Each day, I monotonously clocked in and out, yet still felt a tugging at my heart that just would not go away. In my gut, I felt this tugging was leading me towards helping others achieve their wellness goals. Why? Because I loved physical fitness, knew its importance in maintaining health and longevity and I was enthralled with the science behind weight loss and muscle building. As a hobby, I decided to obtain my personal training certification. I played sports all my life, so as an athlete, the gym was my safe place, my place of solace and where I felt I could just be me. I never thought about doing personal training full time because I was conditioned to believe that it would be reckless, and it would be putting my family’s security at risk. But as the years passed, my babies grew, and with the multitude of lives I was changing, I knew this was my calling. But one thing still held me back, “I am not good enough!”
As women, we have become experts at self-sabotage. We have allowed things outside of ourselves to influence how we speak, act and even on a subconscious level, think. We are constantly comparing ourselves to the women who seemed to have it all; confidence that one cannot help but notice, a body that looks like it was air brushed in a photo, and the perfect family who always seems to be smiling. But one day, as I stared at the motivational quote I wrote about two weeks prior on the whiteboard in my department's lobby, I heard a voice, “Why not you?”
Ephesians 2:10 exclaims, “We are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared for us to do”. Yes me! I am His workmanship. I cannot continue to speak lies about the woman God created. If the Lord considers me His work of art, how dare I doubt his creation. Furthermore, it is comforting to know that God has my life all planned out. From the beginning, he knew just what He wanted me to accomplish for His Kingdom. Who was I to ignore the work He had prepared in advance for me to do?
As a full-time Health, Wellness and Lifestyle Coach, I use biblical truths such as these to help women embody their regalness and embrace their queendom. Self-worth is something women struggle with daily. Some feel guilty about taking time away from their families for self-care, whether it be to go on a run or take a yoga class. Subconsciously, some feel that they just do not deserve to put themselves as a priority in their life. But until they we can genuinely believe that they are “fearfully and wonderfully made,” they will not be able to fully live the lives God intended them to live.
As far as my dream of becoming a missionary, I am one! I speak God's truths into the lives of hundreds of women all over the world and with these glorious Nuggets of God's Word, they are achieving optimal mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.
Iris Romero Lifestyle